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Have I done Something Wrong Joining StackThatMoney? (59)

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Sorry to make my title that way, but its just to catch the attention this thread deserves atleast from my point of view. obvious coz we all are I-Marketers Right?

I put my 4 years of time learning this IM game, I have gained knowledge and am moving ahead day by day. You would say, why am saying this blah blah right? Well...

What I have noticed in this span of time is that I have moved away and been lonely in terms of real close friends, their support and all. I feel like am not a social guy anymore and have lost my relationships with friends.

Reason???

Well I was not using Facebook and other social networks people use to interact with each other, I was not going to parties n all you know! and was busy learning this IM game and how to make money online. Now I do make many times more than they do but still I think sometime, was it really worth this all?

Today when I update ma status on Facebook "I get couple of likes only" while my other friends get boat loads.... I felt very jealous when I opened ma Facebook today also...

I know am really special and feel very thankful to god that I was introduced into this internet marketing stuff where you are your own boss and don't have to work like a slave.

I have never seen the kind of motivation and dedication I have on my friends so my mind will always get attracted to IM stuff and will push me to work more and more. But will I find myself alone in future is the BIG question here?

is it like this with all you guys too ? Yes I have ignored to make this type of thread in past checking myself every time to move away out of this BS and keep myself focused but I would like to know your views.

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If that bothers you, you are in the wrong game. And with game I mean making yourself wealthy, no matter which business you choose. This game is brutal and if your motivation lets you worry whether your updates get likes or not, you should get a job.

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Find a balance dude. You can still be financially successful and have time for friends and family.. The WORST thing you can do is deprive yourself..

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Of course that depends on your definition of "financially successful" Though I agree that if you feel deprived, you are not fulfilling your purpose in your own mind. Like I said, if you feel this, you are doing the wrong thing for you.

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You have done something wrong for sure if you are asking this

But imho your mistake is working too much and not doing enough for yourself, don't get me wrong... Everybody goes through that I think.
You have to learn to not work too much and to get a routine. Go out, exercise, meet friends, make holidays, and work.

If you don't do that, you are making a mistake.

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No it does not bothers my at all, as I said my mind will always push myself to work more and more instead of wasting time on Facebook and all...

Then I think have I missed the bus...

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Am not getting what wrong have I done? Most of my friends are still unemployed and searching for a job desperately, some do the job at $400 a month too. Don't get me wrong am not showing my attitude here, I have worked hard and invested my time to get myself into this position. If I wouldn't have done this my family might not have been as happy it is today.
And by now my friends have moved away, some are doing job on other cities while some are searching for it....its not possible to meet them in real time but they do hang on Facebook.

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If Money is the difference that your friends count..then you prolly should change friends..Even I have friends who come from average middle class family nd it doesnt bother our frndship..we value each other by their personality..not by their financial status.

I think you should be spending some time with your frnds nd balance your career nd social life too!!

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you're basing life decision's on the amount of likes you get on a facebook status? wtf is this world coming to..

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There are pros and cons, yin & yang.
Ultimately, you can ask yourself,

"What do you want?"

Just my 2 cents

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Don't use facebook to talk to real Friends. Pick up the phone. Ask them how things are going. Choose the right social occasions to attend. Quality > Quantity.

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get out, join gym, swimming, guitar or any other hobby class, create a circle that share same interest. its your life, you decide what to do.

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yes you are right, even I also think sometime why the hell am giving this more attention. But I would say this was just an example to explain my point.

oh man thanks a lot, this line is making me feel better now

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You should post this on wickedfire. I think you'd get some real honest advice.

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Going to a language academy is a great way to meet new people. You are forced to socialize with other people and its easy to make new friends.

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Split test this thread on both forums

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Pick one night a week to go out. Finish all your IM stuff by 6pm that night, then go out and get smashed with your friends. Tag them all at the bar you're going to (so you can get your fix of fb likes). Check stats in the morning.





pretty simple.

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This is the best post !
@vipinext : give yourself a break, time managment is very crucial to make this business work

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Wow man am finally getting some tips from you guys!!!

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- Time management.
- Socialize around people who also have drive and want to be successful.

Give 'The Secret to Success" by Eric Thomas a read - https://itunes.apple.com/gb/book/the...92175598?mt=11

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naah man I wont get advice there instead someone will prepare a 5 page ebook and will offer me at $50 having a title "how to get facebook likes" lol

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that's the other WF (warriorforum)

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I don't have Facebook.

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When you're starting to earn money you'll find a lot of your so called friends getting envious towards you. At least that was my experience. Even worse, many so called friends will drop you when you went broke (experienced that the very hard way). Of course it's still possible to keep friendships alive, especially those you established in your childhood and which you possibly went through shit with. That's my experience at least.

The second problem is simply the difference in possibilities you have when earning above average. I mean let's face it, if you're doing like 10k a month you will hardly find many things that guys with an 1.5k salary will be able to do as well. As soon as you want to enjoy some of your money, you have to find at least 'friends' that have a reasonable similiar budget to yours. I don't wanna say you gotta break up with guys not earning similiar to you, but it will just show up over time when you're planning to do a trip / go to any event that's a little costy etc. I mean do you think a friendship with a multi millionaire will survive unless it's been established in the childhood ? There's just some kind of gap of activities that one side can afford / likes to do while the other cannot.

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I didn't read all post but I have been in a similar situation where I wasn't seeing my friend a lot anymore but I didn't really care about that because I was building my futur and my freedom while my other buddies were going out having fun and drinking ... nothing wrong with that but my buddies picked the road of working for someone ... going to school and then find a job where you can make ''decent money'' (lol) and then they will put as much as they can in their 401k and hope to retired young... sad story..

I lost a few of my good buddies so what? .. some saturday night I felt alone for a while since I was working till 3 A.M learning this stuff but I had a goal and a motivation which was more powerful than other people judgment on me. I had many friend telling me dude wtf are you doing on a saturday night staying home working on something you don't even know if it will work ...

Today, I can be proud of myself because it's been 4 months I'm in this game, I sold my offline company, I have a girlfriend that I love I have my 2 best friend that didn't gave up on me, I have new buddies that I can have fun with and inside of me I can say fuck you everybody that had doubt about me I'm now making $,$$$ profit a day and growing on my way to $$,$$$.

All I wanted to say is your happiness can't be based on thing that you can't control or you'll be unhappy and feel bad for a big part of your life.

Be a man that is proud of himself and confidant about himself and have balls Period.

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^

Truth.

Nothing worthwhile ever came without some kind of sacrifice.

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^^ this states 90% of my story, at first no one was believing that am gonna make this work for me and when it started to work everyone ran away like osama-bin-laden

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prove to the world, it does work, and update your FB status to self employed, post your costly getaway trip with hot babes on FB, they might be thinking, where he get all these $$$$$, you just tell them god trusted on me...you should be be glad at least ton of losers exists, else everything would be very competitve. One of the most sad thing in life, is to work for money, what I mean is 9-5 job

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get new friends

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This is a great thread.

I think people sometimes forget why they are in this industry and what makes it so awesome. Yes it can make you a lot of money, and it gives you the "privilege" of grinding through the night. However this industry seems to breed an unhealthy, unbalanced, lifestyle where people seem to define success based off their Facebook street cred.

I have yet to meet someone in this industry who is actually productive (not just being busy) for more than a typical 8 hour work day. Unfortunately, once again people feel the need to mention they are grinding around the clock because it weirdly makes them feel more successful. If anyone is going to be successful in AM it's not because they are online for more than 8 hours a day.

If you are feeling unhappy with your social situation then turn off your computer, and hit up your mates. Don't like your mates? Join a club, sports, language, cultural. Don't like people anymore? Go travel by yourself (bring your laptop).

This industry allows you to make your own rules. You have control over your life that the vast majority of the world do not have. Figure out your end goal (what will make you happy), then work back from there.

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great advice.

whenever someone says. "BEEN GRINDIN FOR MORE THAN 48 HOURS" i doubt that guy actually worked and was productive.

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I left my gf- moved to two different states now- and i have hit rough patches. But it sure beats the hell out of a 9-5 and i don't regret any of it- and i've met many great people not only in this industry but in other states as well. Like andy said find some balance. Go see your old friends- invite them to you. Go on a vacation with your affiliate money.

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Too true.

Affiliate marketers love working themselves in to early graves.

I dread to imagine the hunchbacks, blitzed eyeballs and lonely pangs of regret 30 years from now when people realise life is there to be lived, right now, $0/day or $10,000/day.

There's a book called The Happiness Advantage that I've been recommending to anybody (and everybody) in the industry.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Happiness-.../dp/0307591549

It's not your average Tony Robbins pep talk. Every principle is backed by science, and lots of it.

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G you killed it,

The people who are loudest on Facebook, seem to be the most insecure, especialy when they get a rush from fishing for likes haha

Vipidawg, take a break man. The productivity curve of working post 6 hours, drops so much its barely even worth working anymore haha. Make an effort to get off the computer a few times a week and give your mates a call and go get lunch or hang out.

Life is not only about money, you won't look back and remember the nights you stayed in. Unless of course your friends were there making a mess of the joint

Cheer up, make an effort, work productively and then you'll see the beauty of this game !

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Just bought the book!

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I will be your friend in FB and real life. I will even like your posts. Since we are friends now let's share profitable campaigns. me first. i have none. now your turn? j/k. Call your buddies to hangout at a bar/restaurant (your treat). I'm sure they won't say no to that

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yeah I need to take a break I guess and yeah I sit in front of my computer 15-16 hours a day and sometimes more also. I will focus on time management and being more productive in working hours. I still remember you said back in ma early of STM that you work only 4 hours a day. Damn! how do you manage to get all the stuff done in that ?....hell it takes me 1-2 hours to search a good pic for female dating campaign lol...

Thanks man you always come up with something creative no matter which thread it is, that book looks really good on preview.

oh really? I thought it otherwise like people who are doing huge might be working 24/7!!!, whats your average working time?

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It's not about the time you sit in front of the computer - it's about what you do with the computer. It's a tool, not an attachment. I find I can focus & think better when I'm off the computer. If you spend 1-2 hours searching female pics, you are doing it wrong. I've come to conclusion that you can't know which image will be good, you can only know some general guidelines. Test a lot of images and let the market tell you which one they like - way easier and faster.

There isn't "average working time" when you are entrepreneur. You are not paid for your time. You are paid for results. This is the exact reason why thinking in the terms of hours worked is so dangerous. You start to put too much value on wrong things. Instead of thinking "I must work 24/7", think "I must get these things done". Then you focus your attention to the tasks themselves and if it takes too long to do them in a day, continue in the next. The thing is that getting shit done is doing tasks (obvious right?), not spending certain amount of time. The light bulb moment comes when you realize that the more you do those tasks, the faster you become at them and you'll get more stuff done faster.

My week looks like this:
Monday - Build campaigns
Tuesday - Build campaigns
Wednesday - Research, study, manage all the numbers
Thursday - Research, study, manage all the numbers
Friday - Research, study, manage all the numbers
Saturday - Do nothing
Sunday - Do nothing

The point with this schedule is that mondays and tuesdays are crunch time. Then I'll crank out shit ton of stuff and I can do it because I've just spent two whole days doing nothing and reloading. Then rest of the week is all about doing all the stuff that needs to get done but are not things that I get paid for - i.e. all the bullshit related to running business, analyzing data and etc. "boring" stuff.

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i do get alot of likes when i update... and i'm a hermit my friends know it. gals still dig me though, dont know why...

it's your personality dude.. stay confident. that's the key

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You can always buy facebook friends and facebook likes.. that way its a win, win situation!

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lol you made my day!

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hit the gym, bang some hookers and move on with your life!

Life is too short to worry about what other people think of you

And yeah might want to refrain from posting about your issues on wickedfire

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baahaaha epic

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happiness controlled by amount of likes on facebook status.... yes, you have done something terribly wrong. People who incessantly post statuses are the worst, by posting less statuses, it means you were actually busy doing something with your life instead of begging for attention on FB. Keep banking and if you really need someone to give you attention, go out with friends on a weekend night or something. Facebook interaction is not equivalent to real, healthy social interaction. I find it's good to spend at least 1 or 2 weekends / month going out with people instead of working as it allows you to relax / reset and you'll often come back with more motivation and new perspective

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hahhaha that's hilarious

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Some thoughts

- Your circle of friends is going to slowly change as you progress with your career. I love my old friends to death, but most of the conversation's just based around reliving the high school and college days. It sucks when you ask "What's new in life" and the answers is usually "the same old." It's like I don't wanna talk about my travels or cool shit going on in my life. That's why most of my closer friends these days are ones I've made in recent years. We talk business together, do trips together sometimes, and basically push each other in life.

- You definitely have some weak inner game / confidence issues if you base your feelings on how many Facebook likes you get. If it affects you that much then delete your Facebook.

- It's possible to have success and a pretty good social life. Work your ass off during the week, and go out Friday / Saturday night with your friends.

If your social life sucks then it's kind of weak to use internet marketing as a scapegoat.

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You control your own life mate. If your current IM strategy is taking too much time away from your personal development then change the strategy. Put up some more long term streams of income which don't require so much attention so you can actually have a life outside IM.

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This is ma latest facebook status, am not worrying about whether anyone gonna like it or not. Am now just gonna show that am living quality life let them think what the hell am doing...the more they will think the more they will attracted to me. Coz law of attraction says, you get attracted to what you think :P
lets exploit this...
P.S. if someone from here wanna join me on facebook would really appreciate haha

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Chill Vipin.. maybe just take a break from facebook. You are taking it a way too serious

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Know why you couldn't get more likes from FB compared to your friends?

It's SIMPLE.

Because you haven't been spending time with them.

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I started working online 2.5 years ago, I had some good friends and an average social life, but I was slowly starting to spend too much time on the computer working at home, and not going out much with my friends... They started to slowly stop inviting me out and I stayed about 1 year with basically no social life, I only went to school and worked. I would stay 2-3 months without going out with my friends, I completely hidden my business of my friends, I was making some good money and I thought they would ask me for money if they knew what kind of money I was making, so I prefered to hide it completely... It was very stupid because they thought I was playing video-games all day long, but in fact I was creating internet companies.

So about 1 year ago I started feeling similar to you, I didnt have many friends, they wouldnt invite me to go out, I wasnt getting girls, I was starting to feel unhappy, because it was only work work and work... I also also VERYY insecure about myself. The only thing I was confident about was my "money-making skills", by that time I was making like 1k$/day, so it was very good money for a young guy.

Then I decided to make a change in my life, and get a better social life, so I basically started being MYSELF, and not caring about what others would think about me, I read this quote that really impacted my life: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”


Since then, I started working less, but being more productive, my business started making 7 figures/month, my social life got perfect and I made a lot of new friends.

My colleagues on the university say they want to be like me because of the life I'm living, I'm the happiest person on earth and I dont regret anything I done in the past, except for the fact that I should have stopped caring about what others think of me earlier.

For example right now I've been traveling nonstop for 45 days, 7 more days until I go back home, on the last 12 months I've been to 20 different countries. I'm writing this from my hotel room, all while my friends are at college studying for a shitty job.



“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

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First World Problem?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vN2WzQzxuoA

Cheer up Bro!

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VIP,

I'm not successful yet in the IM game. But had to make changes in my life and my list of friends for a different reason.

I used to spend my time hanging out in bars, selling weed, bedding every bar chick I could get to go home with me. But it had to stop. My life was spinning out of control. And when it stopped, I went from having oodles and oodles of friends and chicks to absolutely none. And yes, it sucked. I was lonely as hell for awhile.

But now I am finding friends that are good for me. They want to hike with me, run with me, or workout with me. They're much better people than my old friends. And I'm finding more every day.

My point is that quality is more important than quantity. Screw Facebook, I don't even have a FB account. If you can find a few good people with similar interests that have your best interests at heart, that's better than all the damn FB likes in the world.

You'll be fine. Just try to find some people with similar interests as you, and no, I'm not necessarily talking about affiliate marketing.

Good luck bro, but I know you'll be fine.

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We all face such situation at some point in our life. not just affiliate marketers but every professional. This thread has turned into STM finest...

A short summary of best posts so far..

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^^ Bawse

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Here's a quote i posted in my Facebook, that got some OK likes, but can be totally applied to your situation as well:

"ENTREPRENEURSHIP is living a few years of your life that most won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life most can't."

Feel free to post it on your profile, OH and don't forget to split test... i have many others if you want

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you got my nerve man, yes this is what am also going with. Couple of my friends who know what I do call me once a while and invite me into their town to hang out with but I always find myself stuck in front of computer. Now am certainly gonna do this I tell ya....
the time you said you have traveled 20 countries in an year of time, believe me my body vibrated like 1000V of current passed through. You seem to be enjoying your internet career at its fullest.
I tell you this is one of the best reply that made an impression on me I will take action now for sure...

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Just picked up this book and liking it so far.

As far as what's going on with you bro... the best thing you've done is brought it up and have been thinking about it and this is what growing is all about. Discomfort is a good thing and it basically say's time to do something about it.

You've been successful in the IM game SO go back to how and what made you successful and apply the same principles to the challenge you are facing now.

About 8 years ago, I applied to become a police officer. Didn't study much but rather went and wrote the tests and obviously failed 1 of 3. However, for the next 3 months I just focused on that 1 test and passed with flying colours.

Right now I've been studying and studying and getting no where. So from your post, it got me thinking of when was I successful and how can i apply it to the IM game and I got my answer as well.

PS. If you are up in Toronto any time, let me know and beer/wings on me

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