I've been an Affiliate marketer for over 10 years..
I have mainly sold Internet marketing products.
I have spent 1000's on education but made very little
I'm now trying the Adult world..
I have a Tube site which has tons of free video's for viewers to watch.
I've tried putting on different banners from Crakrevenue like one of
there top converting one which is "Jerkmate"
Driving the traffic from Trafficjunky with the top 5 Goe's and my banners
placed on Pornhub.
On my site nothing was converting..
So I tried sending the traffic directly to the offers..
It started to convert, but at a loss.
I now have Adplexity to try drill down and find out what is working.
Does anybody have success in the Adult dating that could give me some advice?
And a plan that I could follow that would give me some success too?
Hello desray 
First of all, you need to decide what you want to do.
1. grow a tube site
2. buy traffic and promote the offers directly
Option 1 : most tube owners are monetizing through ad networks, such as exoclick, that network always gave me the best results, when I was running adult sites. You can also try to promote some offers yourself, but the problem is the mixed audience... you will have traffic from pretty much every country out there, so it's a bit complicated to create ads/funnels for every one of them. That's why site owners usually focus on building the traffic and leave the monetization to a traffic/ad network.
How much traffic do you have on the site now btw? For this model to bring in solid revenue, you literally need 10s of thousands if not 100s of thousands views per day.
Buying traffic to a tube site, then hoping for a positive return is not really possible. You need to grow your organic traffic and trade some part of it to receive more fresh visits back to your site.
Option 2 : it's a faster model that can bring interesting profits... the system itself is pretty straightforward... the most important part is a solid offer that converts well. Then you need to make good ADs and use quality landing pages... it's almost impossible to profit without landing pages these days. Adplexity can help you a lot here, use it to see what others are running and do the same pretty much. Don't resort to just copying what's out there though, you need to tweak the ads and lps, to make them at least somewhat unique.
I will stop here now and will wait for a reply from you. Please decide whether you want to go with the 1st or 2nd option, then I will provide more info.