Motivation tips? (19)
Hey guys I want to let you in on a little story..
Before a year ago I was SUPER focused and ambitious. family and friends called me "obsessed" with business and i would go in 9 days a week 31 hours a day. as much as i could and i would never get burned out.
But then some health issues happened and i was bed ridden for a while and although almost a year later im starting to get better i cannot reach that level of motivation anymore. I mean i can go about 5-7 days hardcore all day live and breathe marketing set up camps study coding more and all of that.
But after that im just done. No more motivation. Then i just take a break for about 2-3 days then repeat. I wonder if you guys ever had this experience? Not with the health related but the motivation work ethic related.
Ask anyone that knows me and they know im a hungry mother fucker. Im serious you get in my way when im in my hustling mode and ill lay you out. But then a few days later... just dead. my goals are still there i just have no will to do it.
then 2 days later BOOM CHACALACA! im back in. focused. ready to go. and a hungry wolf ready to make a name for myself...
If anyone has any tips or recommendations let me know!
- Jeremiah
The best secrets I've found for dealing with what you're talking about are:
1) thinking of it less as a goal and less as being about 'motivation' and more in terms of 'duty'... as in, "I have a DUTY to do this because its the right thing to do" rather than "I want to do this because it could lead to x,y,z good things happening".
and
2) Tracking your progress. I like to do a daily tracker and also a monthly tracker where I track my Net Worth and various personal "KPI's"
I also like watching good motivational Youtube videos for 5 minutes or so before I get going... or reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad for a few minutes 
Those are my two cents
Pace yourself.
Structure your days and weeks in advance. Have a prioritised to-do list. Be consistent and include as much rest as you need.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. Sometimes you might have to put in an 18-24 hours work day, but should be very rare.
What you want to avoid is this feeling of going nowhere and always having to decide "so what do I do next, out of X, Y, Z... but I'm also tired".
You have to figure out how much you can work, how much rest you need then plan your tasks around that.
thank you both for your responses. Im writing these down for tmr and will thoroughly go through them change my mindset up and figure out how to work around it.
- Jeremiah
You are telling yourself one story that you want to believe, but in reality your subconscious mind is looking at the whole picture differently. I really believe you are trying to force it, which will only lead to short term gains, burnouts, lack of happiness and fulfilment. You really have to go deep into yourself and ask what makes you do what you do. Whats your purpose in life, what do you want to accomplish short, medium and long term. Try to find your mission that you HONESTLY believe in and you will never have to think about motivation ever again.
Forces you to really look back and figure shit out. I thought i did have huge whys but its possible that im not hammering it in enough. Reasons like this is why i love STM.
- Jeremiah
you lost momentum, it happens.. If you can, go to marketing events, conferences, and just by interacting and being around other marketers you tune into that energy. As affiliates, we usually work by ourselves and it requires intense focus.
It also could be that you ask yourself too much in this matter. When you breath marketing for a few days and then you see yourself quitting/getting demotivated again, it could be a consequence of not knowing what the right balance is. Like Manu is saying, a proper time schedule could work definitely. When I relate this to myself, I can tell that I am a hungry wolf too, but that doesn't mean you can work all day all night after such a huge impact (aiming at the health issues).
Re-defining your WHY could be something, yes. Also, what Baller says: ''Whats your purpose in life, what do you want to accomplish short, medium and long term. Try to find your mission that you HONESTLY believe in and you will never have to think about motivation ever again'' is something that need to be re-considered again. Have you also thought about your surroundings? Does that motivate you (friends, family & more?) or demotivate you? How does your working space look like? Maybe getting to a 'new' or 'different' working area could help. Keep in mind that the basic layer(s) is/are the most important here. Try to find what gets you demotivated by going back the ones mentioned and alter these accordingly (think of your goals & what makes you that hungry mother fucker!)
How did you work before you health issues? The same as now or did you change some things here?
Hope it helps,
Bobby
What are you doing outside of marketing? Are you living a regular life too? I regularly hit these phases of losing motivation ... usually that happens when I have problems blending together my work and the family life.
For example, I want to go fishing with my son, but there is work to finish ... so I continue working, but won't concentrate on it fully, because I think about the fishing trip I missed and a failed promise I gave to my son.
Or I return home from the office, my kids want to do something but I'm to tired from work and need some rest for myself, so can't really force myself into playing with them.
When this happens a few times, I lose motivation to work as I see no point it working more to waste the time I could have used in a different way.
For me it's important to find balance between work and life ... when I work, I work, but when it's over I spend time in a different way, be it with my family or on my own ... long shifts of working didn't do me any good. I need to work effectively and on limited hours. Maybe try to organize your time in a different way.
Are you banking or having a hard time to even hit the green? Quite a different situation to lay down what's really the issue..
@symba3, thanks for pitching in! unfortunately i do not have the means to get myself there but i do like to network as much as i can and do it that way.
@sinum vendo, thank you for taking the time to write quite the response.
"When you breath marketing for a few days and then you see yourself quitting/getting demotivated again, it could be a consequence of not knowing what the right balance is." thinking about it i can guarantee you that this is one factor of not knowing where to find that right balance between life and hustle.
"Have you also thought about your surroundings? " well because im moving in 2 days i can no longer give a shit but my surrounding was a 25 foot trailer for the past 2 years. some days it demotivated me. some days it got me so angry that i just sat down and went to work. I do have a good feeling living in a full size house with my own room, computer desk ETC. will help out quite abit. Regarding family we are very close. traditional European families tend to be like that and im very close with my momma. A huge reason why im doing this is so she doesnt have to work so hard all the time even at her age and her health issues.
"How did you work before you health issues?" oh man i was a mule. i could just go go go. little 16 year old waking up at 5:30 AM trading stocks then going to school. Skipping class to trade in the library LOL going home. studying. then repeat.
It did help just writing this stuff helps alot with my thoughts. Thank you!
@matuloo... always a pleasure when you drop by.
"What are you doing outside of marketing? Are you living a regular life too? I regularly hit these phases of losing motivation ... usually that happens when I have problems blending together my work and the family life."
Well honestly recently i don't have a life. Money is so tight anxiety and depression is so high (although got CBD 2 days ago so excited to see how they do so i can get off the other meds) that even if i wanted to i cant bus anywhere. But i never even have the time. I work full time at the family mechanic shop. But i can create some free time to do some studying which is great. Another great angle i havent thought about that now thinking about it makes total sense.
So big lesson i keep seeing here is balance. Im all over the place regarding work, focusing on mental health, family, and a life. I have to sit down and brainstorm more about it. Also i dont eat the best so i know eating better will help with energy.
And im sure your kids know your working hard to give them a good life. As long as your there whenever you can. That's super important.
@stickupkid, Whats good Facebook pimp?!?!? No not green yet. To much studying not enough action. But that's changed recently. So youll hear from me soon!
Anyways thanks guys so much for this. Hopefully this can also help others in the same similar situation im in.
- Jeremiah
"@stickupkid, Whats good Facebook pimp?!?!? No not green yet. To much studying not enough action. But that's changed recently. So youll hear from me soon!"
That's crucial information ofcourse. I can imagine you were kinda disappointed your first attempts didn't succeed. Here is where most people drop off, lose focus and give it a break. But here is also where the winners get themselves together. Grab your past stats and check which of these parts were giving you succes a bit at least; 1) your mediabuy part was good, so low cost, 2) your prelander was convincing and showed a good CTR, 3) your offers converted, but cost were too high or your prelander showed bad CTR.
Combine your good results with your current skill-set, optimize your weaknesses, outsource some complicated stuff and test like no ones else did before .
Go hop on that horse and get 'em cowboy!
'@sinum vendo, thank you for taking the time to write quite the response.
"When you breath marketing for a few days and then you see yourself quitting/getting demotivated again, it could be a consequence of not knowing what the right balance is." thinking about it i can guarantee you that this is one factor of not knowing where to find that right balance between life and hustle.
"Have you also thought about your surroundings? " well because im moving in 2 days i can no longer give a shit but my surrounding was a 25 foot trailer for the past 2 years. some days it demotivated me. some days it got me so angry that i just sat down and went to work. I do have a good feeling living in a full size house with my own room, computer desk ETC. will help out quite abit. Regarding family we are very close. traditional European families tend to be like that and im very close with my momma. A huge reason why im doing this is so she doesnt have to work so hard all the time even at her age and her health issues.
"How did you work before you health issues?" oh man i was a mule. i could just go go go. little 16 year old waking up at 5:30 AM trading stocks then going to school. Skipping class to trade in the library LOL going home. studying. then repeat.
It did help just writing this stuff helps alot with my thoughts. Thank you!'
- No problem at all Jeremia! If you would like to talk in order to get an eyeopener or whatever, the door is always open here! Just send me a private message. You definitely are a dedicated entrepreneur, the only thing you have to find is right balance under the right circumstances.
Bobby
This thread contains a ton of tips on how to stay motivated - worth checking out!
https://stmforum.com/forum/showthrea...ume-Affiliates
Amy
Be consistent with yourself. If you display an avatar representing the "dollar king", you will always be unhappy because it is a quest with neither end or limits. As mentioned above, possible and attainable goals are often the key to happiness
The vision of oneself often depends on others, nobody wants to see a "new super rich", most people prefer to meet empathic and caring people.
Hold on, the market doesn't lack opportunities to stack more money than you can count
Jeremiah my man, take a breather mate swallow some air
So many great responses here! I totally agree with @stickupkid and if you're yet to see some profitable campaigns the drive/energy to move forward will dissipate as frustration rises, but this is exactly where @baller has nailed it, you really have to develop a key WHY for yourself to motivate you beyond the down times. Its going to happen time and time again, its relatively easy to build motivation into changing our lives, to build the vision in our heads and get so pumped on making money online (or whatever else people want to change in life) but the reality is, its not gonna be a linear simple path. Its gonna completely suck at times - this is why you really need to figure out a passionate foundation of purpose.
Another thing to touch on is health, its vital. In the past I've been all about pushing the limits of what I could output, but the end result was always the same - burn out. I still get burned out at times too now, but I'll rarely ever skip an 8 hour sleep for more work nor miss exercising and socialising to keep balance in life. Of course when starting out and learning the ropes you will have to sacrifice some aspects of life, but you really don't want to skimp on your health, in fact to anyone wanting to change anything in life and not knowing how, especially the monetary success focus on upgrading your health. When you do this, your energy rises, your outlook on life is more positive, you essentially are vibrating higher and you're going to find yourself in places leading you to the path success in other pillars of life as well. Its by far the easiest one to improve, because we all know how.
You gotta remember dude you're young, you got SO much you're gonna learn about yourself in the next 5 years (speaking from experience).
then 2 days later BOOM CHACALACA! im back in. focused. ready to go. and a hungry wolf ready to make a name for myself...
- find a goal that is above money/green
- define a business mission that empowers other people lives
- switch to marketing techniques that really add value to end users, not that rip them off
- give you 1-2 days off per week where you read, watch movies, hang out with friends and family. Makes no sense to make millions and then just buy a golden tomb
- go to work in an office (not sure if you already do). When you work from home, maybe in underwear, it feels good at the beginning. After a while it is not anymore. Going to office everyday it means to wake up and go out of your comfort zone straight ahead, so you have already achieve a challenging (even small) taks
Hope they can help!
Of course, it's the same as going to the gym. You know it's good for you but somedays you can't be bothered, sometimes you win sometimes you lose.
I personally find it helps to read biographies and the occasional youtube motivational video.
Building a startup/business is an emotional roller coaster no one can prepare you for. Paul Graham from Y Combinator wrote this essay about startups,
but it's the same for any business, a lot of it will make sense.
tldr: it's normal, good luck!
wow i did not expect so much amazing feedback. Thank you guys so much. and @maynzie i know what you mean man. that's why a few days ago i sat down and re looked at what im doing and changed things up to put a little less pressure on me.
I will now have a bigger work space and somewhere to workout. The truth is i have been putting to much on my plate. And also i have been doing it all wrong. not organized. but that is something i am starting to change around...
Thanks again everyone for your great responses. Helped more than you know!
- Jeremiah
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