Hi,
So relationships are important and all, and I just switched to a new (female) manager in my main affiliate network.
I'd like to start this right and stand out, and wanted to ask you for your ideas on how to create a great relationship!
My ideas:
1. send her chocolate with a small note saying to sweet success. no clue how to actually send it though (I'm in a different country)
2. see idea 1.
What are your suggestions? (and how do I get it delivered?) budget: 30$ max
3. Send traffic
Be friendly, make jokes but in the same time keep it professional. Ask about offers and share couple of ideas about running some campaigns. You want to have a friendly relationship but in the same time a business one. Try to find out , by asking questions, how much she knows about this business, a good AM can be your best ally but a shit one can be your worst enemy.
I always had great success by making jokes, doing small talk and sharing funny shit.
Lol what Nick said. Also meeting up in conferences, especially at parties works wonders.
I would imagine that the more that you can make him or her successful, the more important you will be for him or her.
This is like in most business relationships.
if its important relashionship for you make the effort to meet him in real life even if it from different country..
making $$$, sending quality traffic and always being kind are the only things the matters to an AM, don't waste time searching other ways to impress her
If they see you send volume and quality conversions they will be your best friend.
+1 for traffic.
In an ocean of "hi" and "how r u"s, the guy who actually sends traffic is much more likely to get a "im good thanks, how are you?"
Just don't send too much traffic or they won't leave you alone
Surprised no one has mentioned reliability. If you ask her to set up or approve a campaign for you, better make sure you are going to try to send traffic. Also, briefly mention what and when you plan on running the offer. Then act accordingly.
I find this to be a nice motivational trick for affiliates too. Be responsible for your words and actions. Set a goal and fulfill it in a timely manner.
As a newbie especially, it's fine if you send traffic and it doesn't back out. That's still going to be appreciated by the AM. - Ok, he tried sending traffic and that source didn't back out. What's next? Where do you wanna go from here?
Affiliate manager = sales rep for X network. Want a sales rep to like you, make them lots of money and they will be your best friend, skyping you [EDIT:multiple times] daily just to check in, lol.
Speaking as an AM (also female) I can say a big thing aside from sending traffic (which is awesome!!!) is engaging with your rep. It may just be our network but I cannot tell you how many pubs I have that I've never heard from. If you ask for help/strategies/intro/advice a good AM is going to like you and try to help you out.
At what point does the am start sending you chocolates? 
I have a little experience with affiliate managers ... I have 20+ of them ... and I agree with everything said here. I do exactly what revenuewire_am suggests and I engage with them immediately by asking questions. I personally use a little NLP and ask, "what offers are your other top affiliates doing well with right now?" That usually gets their attention pretty quick. I just let them know I consider myself a top affiliate. If you don't have the confidence or experience to ask the question quite like that you can rephrase it to "what offers are your top affiliates doing well with?" Either way, you'll get a response. Remember, your affiliate manager sees EVERYTHING that's happening behind the scenes and they can be an invaluable asset to you if you ask the right questions. When I first start working with a new AM, I send just enough traffic and conversions to get their attention … usually $500 or so in conversions the first week … and then I stop. That also gets their attention. I let them know I’ll be happy to send more traffic after the advertiser pays me. At that point you’re in full control of the relationship. The main thing to remember is that your AM can be your best friend, or they can lock you out of your account, so get to know them and ask the right questions. Then follow that up with quality traffic and conversions and it won’t be long until your AM is sending YOU gifts AND you’ll have a friend in your corner when/if you need one. This is my first post btw. Hope it was helpful.