How do you deal with people who turn you down regarding AM? (18)
How do you deal with people who turn you down regarding AM?
Hi guys,
I am assuming that the big guys here don't have this problem now because they already prove to their family and friends that affiliate marketing is amazing with your numbers.
But me I don't have kids or something I'm young guy and I'm going to quit my day job soon , I really love AM and I know thats what I want to do in my life , the thing is when I'm explaining this to my family and friends they don't believe me and trying to encourage me to work in day job even jobs I don't like and with salary of 1.5K/month . They think all this AM is a big bullshit even when I brought 2-3K checks weekly they still not 100% with me .
The truth is I don't care from all the people who trying to turn me down , just my family I really need them to understand and give me freedom to work because they pressure on me to do other things and I'm feeling like I need to proof them this is legit (more pressure on me to success fast).
what do you suggest me to do? this is happened/happening to you to?
To be honest with you? Don't give a damn. YOU are the only person who knows what YOU want to do. You have to follow your instincts.
If you feel peer pressure, let that MOTIVATE you.
As the mad scientist says:
"I'll show them. I'll show them all!"
Man, I'm 31 and I've been in this business for 10 years now.
For 10 years, I've explain to people closed to me the basics of what's I'm doing. They still not get it...
I'm making $XX,XXX profit a month for years now, they still not get it.
I'm driving a €30K Porsche since 5 years, they still not get it.
They just cannot get it, that's far away from things they can admit exists.
Do not think they will change you mind if you make proof AM is legit.
When I start, my father and my father in law keep telling me to finish my studies, to have a diploma, bla bla bla.
I cut school, that wasn't for me anyway.
My advice : Do not listen what they said, do not try to make them change their minds. You family has only one thing in mind, your security. And for them, security mean "what every body is doing, the normal way. What they know.".
You do not really need them to understand and you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.
Do not let anyone tell you what you should do, because that's your life, your perspective and they cannot understand it. Do not try to make them change their perspective, because you cannot understand it and because that's a big waste of your time.
Love them because their family, but try to surround yourself with new people that support you and focus on them.
If you already brought in 2-3K checks weekly, that should be enough proof to them.
If not, you can do what you are doing now for as long as you bring in money. If somehow the money stops, you can ALWAYS go back to your normal day job (or another one).
You happy, your family happy.
If someone asks you again: "Do you have a day job?" Then you say. Yes!
Because AM is actually a day job. And it pays you 2-3K a week.
If you are young, no kids, etc and the best paying day job you can get pays you 1.5K a month (with no realistic career path), then you (and the people around you) really should not be worried about this, as your opportunity costs and career risk are both very low.
If you are older, have kids, and your day job is paying you instead 15.5K a month, then these become more important considerations, especially as you will have a family to consider and not just yourself. In such cases, both your opportunity costs and your career risk become extremely high.
But for you right now--if I understood your situation correctly--these are really irrelevant questions.
2 things I've learned after doing this for 4-5 years full time:
1) People that aren't entrepreneur minded just don't get it. The very concept of affiliate is strange to most people. Now if you told them you were going to go sell BMW's at a dealership, that wouldn't be weird. But selling dating site subscriptions (or whatever) is completely beyond their range of comprehension.
2) In general, people don't want to see you succeed. That sounds weird, because we generally think that are friends and family are there to encourage us (and some truly do), but the majority of people can't stand the thought of you doing better than them. This was especially true for people I worked with that I thought were friends. They were supportive until they realized that I wasn't going to fail and come crawling back into the trenches with them.
So my take-away was just to ignore them, limit my exposure to them and focus on my own success.
Originally Posted by jimmymob
100% have had similar experiences as Jimmymob.
I personally did care, and I cared a lot, when the closet people to me just didn't understand or "approve" of the initial venture into AM. You should care. To say "don't care" about the opinions of the people you hold closest and whose opinions you should respect will not settle well with you on the inside.
People may not understand what it is you do, and in general majority of people fear what they don't understand and want to somehow bring it all back into some kind of perspective for themselves to be comfortable with.
But the thing is, they don't need to understand... they need to just support you and your goals/dreams. Make that clear to them... tell them you're not looking for their approval, just their support in going after your goal. Tell them it's important to you and that it's equally important that they support you...that they don't have to agree with it, they should just support it.
People who didn't choose the same path that you're set on in life will never agree with where you're going. And it will even make them feel uncomfortable.
It's completely outside their reality and it goes deep... it threatens their core philosophies, rationalizations, and limiting beliefs. Earlier in the year, I was like you, telling my friends/family openly about what I'm working towards and even sharing screenshots. Now I shut the fuck up and mind my own business, lay low and don't even say anything unless someone asks me first (and even then, I just down-play it), and I just keep quietly treading along.
As for all my "regular" friends who are happy with their 9-5s, and will be for the rest of their lives, I'm genuinely happy for them... entrepreneurship is risky, and a lot of struggle, and definitely not suited for everyone; this game requires a certain personality type and not everyone has it. You need to start looking at it as if you're on a different level than them.
Otherwise, you risk having your own relatives/friends getting really jealous and insecure, and secretly wishing that you end up failing and hating on your success. Charles Ngo post related to this, "Crabs in a Bucket" - http://charlesngo.com/momoneymoproblems/
I totally understand that your friends and family might be concerned thinking your going nuts joining some "MLM" program, or some flakey online venture.
It seems to me they just need a bit of education about affiliate marketing. It's a big mystery to a lot of people.
This is a easy read: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affiliate_marketing.
If you want a shorter version, then this will do: How Do You Explain What You Do?
Your friends do not need to know how much you are making. They are your friends, not your accountants.
I really don't give two s**ts what other people think about my doings. It's not their god damn business anyway.
Sometimes when I get really bored, I put on a t-shirt that says "I'm an internet marketer and I'm loving it!". Then I load my vegetable cart with pumpkins, and out of the door I go.
About dragging my cart for a while the haters start to gather. When there's enough of them, 7 is enough for me, I stop my pumpkin cart.
Then I start throwing my extra ripe pumpkins at them screaming the same time: THIS IS YOU LIFE! WAKE THE F UP! THIS IS YOUR LIFE. (I don't exactly know what I mean, but I know I'm doing good.)
When I run out of my orange shells, I take my cart, go home and do whatever I please.
^^ hahahah wtf??
Use their doubt to drive you. When you can't be bothered creating another ad, landing page or campaign variation, think of them doubting you. Prove them wrong.
Originally Posted by red_serpent
people love to be an expert on subjects they know nothing about to tell you that you are wrong.
I tend to keep it to myself. not a lot of people know what I do. (especially the adult dating part lol)
lots of people still think i'm stuck in some pyramid scheme. fuck em.
I wouldn't try to explain the true nature of affiliate marketing to them.
I'd just boil it down to a pitch like, "This network is currently paying me 10K/month to work with them. I can't afford to turn them down."
The less you expand on the details, the better.
There are a lot of great advices here , it looks like a lot of people here had this problem and each one found is own way to deal with this issue , for the people here who say fuck them just do whatever you want , first I'm doing what I want but I just wanted to know how can I make them support me I guess this is to much to ask, because they think AM is like not real job . thanks you for the inspire stories guys.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wS5xOZ7Rq8
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